Wednesday, March 26, 2014
SLICE #26- TWO HANG UPS
He texts back, "I want to go to GCC (the school where Son #1 goes).
I am not sure what to say. I text "?"
He texts, "They're sitting me."
I don't know what that means.
He texts again, "Zay says I can play quarterback.."
I text back. "What do the coaches say?"
He doesn't respond. When I get done buying license plates, I call. He tells me the coaches are mad because he has been missing practice for his job. The job I told him to get. They have told him he cannot play spring ball. "All of the D-1 coaches will be there watching," he says. "And I won't be playing."
I don't know what to say. I feel like I am getting about half of the story and I wonder what is really going on. In the past, work ethic has been an issue and I wonder if that is what is going on now. I wonder what the appropriate parental response might be.
And then he says, "Well you are clearly not going to give me the support I need." And hangs up.
Son #1 texts me mid-morning. "If you write a check, I won't get it for a day, so you need to put my money in today."
I am rushing through my day. I do not have time to text back. I know I can't get to the bank until after it closes because of an after school meeting. I wonder if it is really true that they won't put the money in the bank until a day later.
I ignore him until after school when I notice that he has called three more times.
I call back.
He answers the phone after about five rings. It sounds like he has been asleep. Our connection is bad and I have trouble hearing. He gets mad and tells me to hold the phone to my ear.
I tell him that I cannot put money into his account until the bank opens tomorrow morning.
He gets mad.
He hangs up.
I do not call back.
Instead I spend the evening wondering if he is ok. Wondering whether he has food. Wondering where all his money is going.
I do not know how to parent these two man boys.