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Tuesday, January 27, 2015

SLICE OF LIFE


Saturday morning.
The alarm goes off at 3:30
And I think of the steeplechase day
Stretching long before me.
First a series of small hurdles.
Get son up
(ok, maybe not such a small hurdle)
Drive to airport.
Check in. Security. Train. Gate. Board.
Deplane in Phoenix.
Ground transportation.

Then a bigger hurdle.
Empty out son’s apartment.
Furniture.
Kitchen.
Bathroom.
Mattresses.
Clothes.
Dreams.
Load car.

Another hurdle.
Tire store.
The low pressure light is on
and I envision sitting for several hours
waiting for repairs.
I think this might be big
But it turns out to be nothing
Cars lose air in the hot desert climate
Tires just need to be periodically reinflated.
Phew.

And then the big hurdle.
Twelve hours in the car
Son's heart is broken.
Football
his first love
maybe his only love
has betrayed him.
I have lived with him long enough
to know that grief
usually disguises itself
as red hot anger.
I am not sure
I can get over this hurdle.
I picture crashing
flying headfirst
into a stone wall.

Do you want me to drive?
I ask.
NO.
I ask if he wants to listen to music.
No.
Book on tape?
No.
I offer to read aloud.
No.
He switches on the radio.
For five minutes.
Then switches it off.
“I don't want to listen to the radio.
I just want to talk.”
And he does.
For eight hours straight
But not the good kind of talk.
Not heart talk.
Not stories.
Not healing.
Not laughter.
Instead he rages
It seems I have many shortcomings.
As a teacher.
A mother.
A Christian.
I am the reason he has not been successful in Phoenix. 


Flagstaff.
Winslow.
Gallup.
The hurdles
and the running commentary
keep coming. 
I stop him once or twice.
Tell him that he is being unkind.
But mostly I am quiet.
Sometimes there are no words.

I am hungry
but he does not want food.
We switch drivers.
The tirade continues.
Albuquerque.
Santa Fe.
Las Vegas.
We are both exhausted.
And stop for the night.
He still does not want to eat
and we both go to sleep hungry.

Sunday morning
I eat breakfast alone
in the hotel lobby.
Brace myself for another day.
He wants me to drive.
No, wait, he wants to drive.
I can drive after we get gas.
No. He is going to drive the whole way.
He wants to get there and I drive too slow.
He forgets his wallet.
And races back across the hotel parking lot.
Forgets his glasses
And races into the hotel again.
I am prepared for four more hours
in the furnace of his anger
but he is mostly silent.
Flying down the highway
at speeds that leave me
looking in the rearview mirror
for flashing lights.

For three more hours
he says nothing
I read 
and watch 
as New Mexico mountains 
flatten
into prairies of Southern Colorado.

Raton.
Trinidad.
Walsenberg.
Pueblo.
Colorado Springs
and then the anger spews forth again.
This eruption is brief
one hot flash
and then over.
He is silent until we get to Denver.
Explodes again
as I attempt to navigate
us through the maze of freeways
leading to the airport.
How many exits?
Exactly how many?
Are you sure?
Did you have to take the longest way?
I know which lane I have to be in.
You don’t have to tell me.

I am silent
as he drops me off in front of the airport.

I have crossed the finish line.
And I am still on the horse.
That is its own small victory.

I guess.

Friday, January 23, 2015

POETRY FRIDAY

 
Swimmers on Beach at Barbados- Wikimedia Commons
Parker Palmer published this Mary Oliver poem earlier this week. It's new to me…
What Can I Say

 

What can I say that I have not said before? 
So I'll say it again. 
The leaf has a song in it. 
Stone is the face of patience. 
Inside the river there is an unfinishable story 
and you are somewhere in it 
and it will never end until all ends.

 

Take your busy heart to the art museum and the 
chamber of commerce 
but take it also to the forest. 
The song you heard singing in the leaf when you 
were a child 
is singing still. 
I am of years lived, so far, seventy-four, 
and the leaf is singing still.

 

~ Mary Oliver ~

Tara (who I'm looking forward to meeting in person at our state reading conference in February)
 over at A TEACHING LIFE
is hosting Poetry Friday today. 

Tuesday, January 20, 2015

SLICE OF LIFE

The call comes in as I am finishing my school day. Son #1.

I think he is probably calling to remind me to deposit his grocery money, like he does pretty much every Thursday.

"Hey buddy. What's going on?"

"I want to come home."

I think he is ready to take advantage of my offer to fly him home for the long weekend, so that he can spend his 21st birthday with his brother and I. I wonder if I can still get a plane ticket this close to the weekend.

"OK, sweetie. Let me see what I can do. You would have to go back Monday morning, right?"

"That's not what I mean," he says, this time with a little more urgency. "I want to come home."

"You want to come home?" I repeat, a little confused.

"I want to come home. For good. I'm done. I hate it here. Football isn't working out. I just want to come home."

I am stunned. "Are you sure?"

"Yes. I just want to come home. I'm done."

"Have you talked to the coaches?

"I just want to come home."

We talk for a few more minutes. I try to figure out whether his grades were bad and he was kicked out of school. Whether something happened with the football coaches. Or at the apartment building.

He will tell me nothing, but he is adamant. He wants to come home. And not just for the weekend. Not just to to talk and try to sort out what is going on. He wants to come home for good.

I buy a one way ticket and pick him up on Saturday afternoon with three suitcases. Sometime, in the next few weeks, maybe as soon as this weekend, we will go back and get his car.

He says that after we get his car, he will look for jobs.

He says he wants to finish his associate's degree.

He says maybe he will play football somewhere else.

I say nothing.

Because sometimes there are just no words.

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

SLICE OF LIFE

I am greeted by a wall of words the minute I walk into the office.

"Dr. Carol, Dr. Carol, look, Dr. Carol. I have a new hat," shouts K, waving her head gear frantically in my direction.

"Do you want to try it on?" she says to me. "You can try it." I am used to K's gifts. Last week she offered me a kiss from her Christmas puppy. Earlier today it was a sticker earned in music class. And now her new hat, hot pink with a pop culture character trio on the front.

K chatters excitedly as we walk around the end of the counter. She needs something to drink. She wants to play the spelling game (sometimes we practice sight words after school). She doesn't want to practice the hard word (and)we learned today, only the easy ones- see and  like and can. And maybe dog. 

The office is crowded and noisy, like it is most days after school, and I can tell the secretary is having a hard time hearing. I usher K back around the corner of the counter and sit her down on the bench where kids whose parents are late have to wait.

K is delighted to join a friend from the other kindergarten class. C is not happy- she -has-that -I wonder-if-I'm-going-to-be-picked-up-and-I'm-thinking- about-crying-just-in-case" look.

"Come on, C, you can play the spelling game with us," says K. "I will teach you. We are not doing the hard ones."

C's lip trembles. K hugs her. "It's ok. We are going to play the spelling game."

K and I play a few rounds. By now, C has decided that the situation is quite serious and started to sniffle. K's auntie walks through the door.  C, the last child on the bench  begins to cry in earnest.

K starts to head out the door with her auntie, then turns around and runs back to give C a hug.

"I know" she says. "You can spend the night at my house. We can play."

K's aunt protests. "She has to go home with her mother. It's a school night."

"She can come with me," K insists.

C looks more than a little alarmed. Now not only has her mother not shown up, but it appears that kidnapping by a classmate is looming on the horizon.

K's auntie tries again. "She can't come tonight, sweetie. It's a school night. Maybe another day she can come and play."

Just then C's mom flies into the office. C jumps into her arms, relieved to be free from her captor.

"It's ok, C," insists K. "You can come with me tomorrow."

Sunday, January 11, 2015

CYBILS NONFICTION FINALIST- HANDLE WITH CARE

In Colorado, we know about farms that raise corn, and wheat, and sugar beets. But did you know there is also a farm that raises butterflies? HANDLE WITH CARE follows nonfiction author extraordinaire Loree Griffin Burns and photographer Ellen Harasimowicz as they visit El Bosque Nuevo, a farm in Costa Rica that grows butterflies to sell to museums.

Beautiful photography follows the butterfly farmers throughout their daily tasks. A young crop of caterpillars can eat an entire greenhouse in one or two days, so farmers constantly bring in new plants, and also plates of crushed bananas and sugar water for the adult butterflies. They protect the caterpillars and butterflies from birds, snakes, and frogs that want to sneak in and eat their crops. Older caterpillars are moved to a puparium, then the pupas are then packed into special boxes, delivered to the airport and sent to far away museums. It's critical that they  arrive at their final destination before this stage of the life cycle ends.

End pages include notes on insects and their life cycles (did you know there are three kinds of metamorphosis?), a glossary, and resources for further reading.

Perfect for a unit on butterflies or life cycles!

Read the CYBILS review here.

Saturday, January 10, 2015

THE CASE OF THE VANISHING LITTLE BROWN BATS- CYBILS NONFICTION FINALIST


Little brown bats were once among the most common bat species in North America. They are an important part of our ecosystem, eating insects that kill crops and spread disease, such as West Nile Virus. In recent years, however, the brown bat population has taken a huge hit, to the point that scientists are considering whether this bat should be put on the endangered species list.

Sandra Markle's newest book, THE CASE OF THE VANISHING LITTLE BROWN BAT follows scientists as they try to solve the mystery of what might be killing the bats. Markle explains how scientists rule out global warming, pesticides, and several different viruses in a way that is not only highly informational, but also story-like and engaging to read. The text is accompanied by gorgeous up-close photography that readers are going to love. End matter include an author's note, fascinating facts, ways people can help in the bat conservation effort, a glossary, and additional resources.

Read a terrific review on the CYBILS NONFICTION FINALIST list here.

Friday, January 9, 2015

POETRY FRIDAY


Denver at sunset, taken about five minutes from my house, by Jon Bennett, Wikimedia Commons

 A poem I found in my current re-read, ONE THOUSAND GIFTS, by Ann Voskamp. When I looked at the afternotes to find out where it was from, I thought Voskamp had originally read it in THE SABBATH by Abraham Joshua Heschel. When Tabatha read it, she said it's actually by G. K. Chesterton. I was all set to write to Ann Voskamp to tell her about her error, and then I discovered I had actually looked at the notes for Chapter Four instead of the notes for Chapter Five, so it was me who was making the error! So sorry if I misled anyone!
"Evening"
Here dies another day
During which I have had eyes, ears, hands
And the great world round me;
And with tomorrow begins another
Why am I allowed two?
G.K. Chesterton
Tabatha Yeatts is hosting Poetry Friday today.