tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post4605025150735122167..comments2024-02-17T21:40:24.532-07:00Comments on Carol's Corner: SLICE #12- IN WHICH I SAY NO. A LOT. Carolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13294455230627182656noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-37817987245262054122017-03-13T09:54:27.882-06:002017-03-13T09:54:27.882-06:00Oh man, you know I felt every word of this! It'...Oh man, you know I felt every word of this! It's so hard to find ways to support our kids and say yes when their choices and preferences seem so antithetical to our values. This is one way my son constantly pushes me way out of my comfort zone. I know how healing those yeses are to him, but it's so tricky to find ways to be okay with yes when I really want to say no! I'm impressed by the creativity and thinking out of the box of your boys. I never would have thought of any of this for them! So that's good, right??Elisabeth Ellingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00747914394861199796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-48471898446173232262017-03-12T23:03:45.333-06:002017-03-12T23:03:45.333-06:00Keep it up, Carol. You are wise no matter what tho...Keep it up, Carol. You are wise no matter what those kids say about it. Looks like we're all with you!Linda Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14983144542632353870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-28034280770842980552017-03-12T21:45:39.456-06:002017-03-12T21:45:39.456-06:00Oh, Sister-Momma! How I hear you loud and clear. ...Oh, Sister-Momma! How I hear you loud and clear. My Boychild went down a similar path... He didn't have a clear goal, but went back and forth. He started college right after high school...and had a WONDERFUL TIME not going to class, but also not missing a single party! His freshman year, he failed his English class because he missed the last day of class, which put him over the limit, and cancelled out his B average. (I made him pay me back!) His sophomore year, he went to less class and more parties...and don't make it through the Spring semester.<br />He struggled and wandered and whined quite a bit. Ok. A lot. <br />He struggled. <br />I struggled. <br />He cried.<br />I cried.<br />He yelled.<br />...and I did too.<br />But then he found a job. Hard manual labor. Building fences in the Texas heat. <br />And he found his way.<br />He found his way OUTTATHERE!<br />It was life experiences he found on his own when he launched out on his own that led him to his path.<br /><br />To massage therapy licensure!<br />(I know! Who'd have thought?!?)<br />And now he's a well-respected, often-requested expert in Thai massage.<br /><br />...all this to say, the NOs are worth it! Keep 'em coming, Momma!Kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18009856570800396646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-36896908657635745242017-03-12T21:20:45.952-06:002017-03-12T21:20:45.952-06:00I'm on the early end of the "you're a...I'm on the early end of the "you're a bad mom" spectrum but it still guts me when my 5 year old says it, at because he doesn't get what he wants... Can I just say bravo. If only you could hear me clap for your patience, your time, your caring. Your disagreements are those of love, not judgment. You embody so much good. Keep at it; You're doing your best.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09483245957326206380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-55741258674461780242017-03-12T21:18:30.859-06:002017-03-12T21:18:30.859-06:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Lisa Vaheyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06875253889964628527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-8817195256415895432017-03-12T21:14:17.074-06:002017-03-12T21:14:17.074-06:00Carol, this must be a complicated refrain in your ...Carol, this must be a complicated refrain in your life. How to say "no" but "I still love you and believe in you (but YOU CAN NOT HAVE A GUN!)." Thank you for sharing this personal story with us and know I'm sending you a love of positive "no" energy as you navigate this space.Lisa Vaheyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06875253889964628527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-59890597451876545332017-03-12T21:12:48.445-06:002017-03-12T21:12:48.445-06:00My heart goes out to you. I have similar Son #1 i...My heart goes out to you. I have similar Son #1 issues, though I think you're in a better spot because you at least have "No" to say to something!<br /><br />In our home, we spent a lot of time instructing -- and our son turned out to be an insular introvert. I wish, wish, wish he could come up with creative ideas to talk about what he wants to do with his life. In the meantime, we do all we can to be supportive..<br /><br />..and not do so much of the instructing thing with Son #2, who is 10 years younger.<br /><br />Let's tell ourselves this is all temporary. :)<br /><br />Kudos to you, Mom!Veronica E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16206006645154929026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-24615626616935628372017-03-12T21:11:22.609-06:002017-03-12T21:11:22.609-06:00Oh my sweet fellow-mom. We are kindred spirits. I...Oh my sweet fellow-mom. We are kindred spirits. I say no to my 25 year-old being a professional singer and a personal trainer. I tell him he can't afford to own and drive a car and should not move out of the only place he has ever lived away from home that has provided a safe environment. And I'm out to ruin his life as well. Hang in there. I do feel like we have made a little progress. I just pray that he will find a peace with whatever comes his way. Best wishes to you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04992928283157138991noreply@blogger.com