tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post7925954766151170539..comments2024-02-17T21:40:24.532-07:00Comments on Carol's Corner: Slice #15- Another Missing Chapter in the Parenting Book. Carolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13294455230627182656noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-19122282410588476692018-03-17T15:44:37.052-06:002018-03-17T15:44:37.052-06:00If you find that missing chapter, you be sure to p...If you find that missing chapter, you be sure to pass it along to me, ok? I know I am going to need it too. I try to stay in the present moment parenting because it's too hard otherwise, but I do wonder and worry about what my son's 20s will be like. Mine were kind of muddly; probably everyone has muddly 20s. But I think it's different for our boys with the extra challenges that come from having lived through so much trauma. The advice that might work for other kids who haven't gone through what our kids have gone through doesn't work for them and isn't even appropriate for them. Elisabeth Ellingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00747914394861199796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-22149442941238332442018-03-16T09:29:04.302-06:002018-03-16T09:29:04.302-06:00I wish there was an easy answer or I had magic adv...I wish there was an easy answer or I had magic advice for you. Everyone takes a different path in life and as a parent it's frustrating when you've provided your child with the tools to be successful and the they take a traditional path. Stay tough and he'll figure it out eventually. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06013961831477045481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-77826565754328576812018-03-16T03:58:54.686-06:002018-03-16T03:58:54.686-06:00Oh, Carol, when you write that book can I have a c...Oh, Carol, when you write that book can I have a copy? No one prepares us to parent twenty-somethings. Currently, we have two of our twenty-somethings back at home. Many a day I shake my head at the conversations I have with them. I just keep hoping they'll all figure it out --- and soon! I keep telling myself that ten years from now I'll be glad i helped them to get this good start. <br /><br />I couldn't help but note what appears to be an interest in culinary work by your son. I wish someone in this house would learn some cooking skills. ;o) <br /><br />My husband and I both teach. We graduated high school, went to college, and we knew we would teach. Many of my friends in other professions remind me that it really doesn't work like that for most of the world. Many of them have stories of a million little jobs before they found their life's work. Here's hoping we can continue to navigate the world of twenty-somethings. Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08233792477358685156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-76444313436396775282018-03-15T21:40:02.351-06:002018-03-15T21:40:02.351-06:00Oh, Carol, I wish you had that missing chapter too...Oh, Carol, I wish you had that missing chapter too. There are no easy answers to your dilemma, but your boys are lucky to have you (even if they don't voice that now).Ramonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929914252480696798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-72087721336419934752018-03-15T21:17:25.043-06:002018-03-15T21:17:25.043-06:00Love the idea that the parenting book is missing a...Love the idea that the parenting book is missing a few chapters. Mine is on the other end...just a toddler, but I often feel like the I could use a manual to tell me if I am doing the right thing or if I am screwing up this little human!MrsGardenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05224018456114579651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-8265696180825197202018-03-15T20:59:22.756-06:002018-03-15T20:59:22.756-06:00Hi ya - a very heartfelt post. Kind of funny my po...Hi ya - a very heartfelt post. Kind of funny my post tonight was a reflection on all the jobs I had before I graduated college - inspired by the closing of Toys R Us. Normally when someone shares what you shared tonight, I try to ask if you just wanted an ear or if you just wanted advice?<br /><br />Perhaps foolishly I will offer some advice. <br />1 - Don't worry he is only twenty two. I did not figure out my calling until 29. Some of the most interesting people I know are still trying to figure it out <br />2 - Get him out of your house! Surely he can go live in some sort of group house situation. You have made his life too comfortable. If he is surrounded by others who are moving forward in life, perhaps he might get the hint. He should find a place, so he can walk or bike to the smoothie place. Let him fall on his face. He will live. You are making life too easy for him. By working a bunch of dead end jobs, I was motivated to finish college. It doesn't matter what degree he gets, as long as he has some slight passion for it. <br />3 - the only thing you should offer to pay for him is possibly therapy<br /><br />I wish you well<br /><br />testbloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05156518024828549630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-47756352210294024142018-03-15T20:46:44.477-06:002018-03-15T20:46:44.477-06:00I'm not a parent myself, but every parent I kn...I'm not a parent myself, but every parent I know is also looking for that parenting book. Sounds like you are doing just fine! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com