tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post7663632227709100380..comments2024-02-17T21:40:24.532-07:00Comments on Carol's Corner: SLICE OF LIFECarolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13294455230627182656noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-67085835900021051302015-01-01T16:25:15.387-07:002015-01-01T16:25:15.387-07:00If you find those missing pages in the manual, ple...If you find those missing pages in the manual, please forward them to me! It's so hard for me to imagine what my son will be like when he grows up. His dreams right now are so materialistic. I understand why, given his background, but I just hope over the next 6-8 years, we can instill some stronger values. Parenting is most definitely the hardest thing I've ever done too. Made ever so much more complicated for us by our children's backgrounds and trauma experiences.Elisabeth Ellingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00747914394861199796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-79201211163900840082014-12-31T11:05:34.839-07:002014-12-31T11:05:34.839-07:00You must be peeking in my window! I have a son and...You must be peeking in my window! I have a son and daughter following different, but very similar paths, to your son's. I have longed for a "manual" - so many baby books to address each stage but so few available for parenting at this end where it all seems to count so much more :)! I have found some insight from Slouching Toward Adulthood by Sally Koslow. Also we have worked with a counselor and learned a lot about add - the type without the hyperactivity - much more difficult to spot and more confusing to support, with or without medication. Books by Dr. Ed Hallowell have provided some insight. Hope any of this will help you. Best wishes!Merry Sunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04567910020371626779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-91130749167340708182014-12-31T10:15:30.264-07:002014-12-31T10:15:30.264-07:00They come to us without manuals, and sometimes tha...They come to us without manuals, and sometimes that is for the best. Tabatha's suggestion sounds wonderful - sometimes, the best path to finding oneself is through the service for others. Happy New Year, Carol - looking forward to meeting you finally in February!Tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626451110946889157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-63395695849692815252014-12-31T08:03:59.381-07:002014-12-31T08:03:59.381-07:00I wonder if your son would find a volunteering abr...I wonder if your son would find a volunteering abroad trip (maybe a two or three week trip to Haiti or Africa?) rejuvenating, focus-enhancing. <br />I have heard that the Resiliency Workbook by Nan Henderson is good, btw. (I think you're doing a great job! It's a shame that the parenting book is always missing the very bits we need...)Tabathahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14367572663591077922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-51636478663669307292014-12-30T23:23:56.223-07:002014-12-30T23:23:56.223-07:00I don't think I can add anything new to the co...I don't think I can add anything new to the conversation, Carol. I get where you are coming from and I hope that your son will find his way. Soon. Hang in there. Parenting is a mysterious thing, isn't it?Jonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04299647754479967070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-52702563885356968052014-12-30T21:00:41.945-07:002014-12-30T21:00:41.945-07:00Just remember, there are so many of us who underst...Just remember, there are so many of us who understand EVERY...SINGLE...WORD you wrote. Yes, parenting is one of life's biggest challenges.Diane Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16902966404302255893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-18089070177027178072014-12-30T20:50:09.243-07:002014-12-30T20:50:09.243-07:00Ditto on all those constant conversations. They ...Ditto on all those constant conversations. They say that 25 the brain is finally fully formed...into what I sometimes still wonder. At 28 it is making much healthier decisions...working with kids in much worse shape and much less support has brought wisdom. I rec. Service..<br />maybe that is Africa :) xoNanchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13135130889558068676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-83788842560945769812014-12-30T18:31:51.238-07:002014-12-30T18:31:51.238-07:00Raising our adult children doesn't come with a...Raising our adult children doesn't come with a manual just like raising younger ones. We're in a similar situation and my husband I just finished a conversation, "M needs to learn about life and figure how to make his pieces fit together, not our pieces." It's a constant conversation and for that I am most thankful. Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09165228990207676534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-75844640295525199122014-12-30T15:51:32.127-07:002014-12-30T15:51:32.127-07:00Oh my. Parenting can be so challenging! It's...Oh my. Parenting can be so challenging! It's difficult to walk the fine line of support and tough love. I wish you and your son the best. Keep us posted!Holly Muellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00476411667354933648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-17994854208106412712014-12-30T15:46:42.152-07:002014-12-30T15:46:42.152-07:00Hi Carol, my son is only four, so I have not had t...Hi Carol, my son is only four, so I have not had to experience these challenges. However, I have had a front row seat for my sister's son's transition to manhood. One of the hardest things to do is to take a step back and let them make choices, or mistakes as we might see them, but I have also learned that if we don't, we rob them of the life experiences they need to be successful. At this point, all you can do is love them through the choices they make :-) Best wishes!sararenaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01707673779590158167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-77281368829700541212014-12-30T15:04:18.077-07:002014-12-30T15:04:18.077-07:00Carol, I was just lamenting to a friend today that...Carol, I was just lamenting to a friend today that parenting never gets easier. I think your son will find his path because you have faith in him and you are a guiding force!Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18102939630771341497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-44965497301692315812014-12-30T13:29:34.382-07:002014-12-30T13:29:34.382-07:00Your son is much like my daughter. Loves to try th...Your son is much like my daughter. Loves to try things, but not much follow through. We have been supportive, but it is a delicate balance. She is 24 and finally has settled into a careern and is supporting herself. I hope the new year brings the best for you and your son.shogemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06578664657000177364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-31506038655604227912014-12-30T12:24:27.809-07:002014-12-30T12:24:27.809-07:00You are caught between your heart and your brain. ...You are caught between your heart and your brain. Your heart wants to make everything right for your son. Your brain says he needs to take responsibility. It is a difficult path, but stay true to what you know is best. I've been there too. Eventually (hopefully) he will grow up and fall back on what you've been modeling/teaching all these years. Happy new year, Carol!elsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01348895330633879894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-83316039383404302142014-12-30T12:11:48.966-07:002014-12-30T12:11:48.966-07:00I see some similarities here at my house. My son ...I see some similarities here at my house. My son wants to be a musician with no plan B if plan A doesn't work out. Hmmm....you are right parenting is hard. Hang in there. Hopefully 2015 will bring him a new vision with a workable plan!Leigh Anne Eckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03558611848583070310noreply@blogger.com