tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post3065386126383053464..comments2024-02-17T21:40:24.532-07:00Comments on Carol's Corner: SLICE OF LIFE #9- I WISH…Carolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13294455230627182656noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-18291676826778816482013-03-10T15:50:06.192-06:002013-03-10T15:50:06.192-06:00Carol,
Thank you for writing bravely and honestly....Carol,<br />Thank you for writing bravely and honestly. I know it's hard to write this close to the bones. I imagine the ending may have been the hardest to face when it was in black and white on the screen. I have a theory about families -- I think God builds them according to needs. Your boys needed you. You needed them. You are absolutely enough. Promise you'll say it out loud when you read this comment: "I am enough."<br />Hugs,<br />RuthRuth Ayreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09691244229499772525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-13582355837799531602013-03-10T12:28:37.978-06:002013-03-10T12:28:37.978-06:00"I wish my boys had a dad."
I am taking..."I wish my boys had a dad."<br /><br />I am taking a break from working on a strategy lesson lesson about using refrains in writing. Ideas that are important enough to come back to again and again. Your refrain was right there, over and over and over again in your writing. It really struck me (both in its significance and in the way it echoed what I'm working on). <br /><br />Your slice is full of honesty and love. You are raising them the best way you can and you can only do your best. The fact that your son called to apologize means that he knows that too.Stacey Shubitzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17903206728640184043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-34945128369937567412013-03-09T23:42:25.781-07:002013-03-09T23:42:25.781-07:00I believe that you have given your life to your so...I believe that you have given your life to your sons so that they wouldn't stay in the world they landed in. You stepped forward to do that & this time sounds awfully lonely, yet when they grow older, I really believe they will know they are lucky to have you. We had a tough time in these very same age years with one of our children, Carol-lots of long distance calls, some bad decisions, some things to change that were so hard, and it came out okay, but I remember those years as some of my most challenging as a "grown up". I use that term because many of us always think we're all ok because we're older, but life throws curveballs & throws us off. I think I'm rambling, yet I want you to know that I (& all those comments above) mean that we think you're terrific & I really believe that things will smooth out. I wish your boys had a dad too, but they have a wonderful mom & some don't have either. They are lucky!Linda Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14983144542632353870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-21794703517695744352013-03-09T19:36:47.168-07:002013-03-09T19:36:47.168-07:00Carol, I'm sorry I don't know what to say,...Carol, I'm sorry I don't know what to say, but I had to leave a comment. I know it is hard. Really, really hard. But we can only imagine the life your boys would have had if you didn't bring them home. You gave them stability. You gave them love. You gave them a home. You are amazing and I know you will continue to do the best that you can. Pray. Pray even more. Pray they will find men and mentors in their lives -- like the coaches and teachers to help guide them with your support. They will continue to learn. Just keep talking with them. Let them talk and you listen. We can't always "save" our children and they will make mistakes. <br /><br />I wish there was more to do to help you! (Remind me about all this in years to come with my girls!!!) Sending hugs your way! Stay warm in that snow storm! I'll be praying for you too!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04822472844833732246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-5716107439600384042013-03-09T18:27:07.772-07:002013-03-09T18:27:07.772-07:00Carol, I was so struck by your powerful slice.
It ...Carol, I was so struck by your powerful slice.<br />It must have been so difficult taking in 2 struggling boyson your own. But you gave them so much - love, support, a stable, loving home.<br />Don't beat up on yourself - you did the best you could and the boys will realize that.<br />One parent is sometimes enough.<br />My own daughter has not spoken to her dad since she was 16. (she is 28 now) He was abusive to my oldest - who he adopted. There are no perfect families - we all do the best we can. I have had guilt over that abuse for a long time - I fianlly had to let it rest.<br />I will include you and your sons in prayers. God bless.Beverley Bairdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12973073253078139054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-57240515731372461022013-03-09T17:47:57.544-07:002013-03-09T17:47:57.544-07:00Kay, being a foster parent is hard, hard work, but...Kay, being a foster parent is hard, hard work, but it's also so very important and good foster parents are so, so necessary. If you want to talk, email me (carwilc@aol.com). I've got lots of resources that I didn't have when I took my boys. Also read LANGUAGE OF FLOWERS. It's a novel, but gave me huge insight into kids raised in the foster care system. Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13294455230627182656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-51297337976850739572013-03-09T17:36:49.069-07:002013-03-09T17:36:49.069-07:00What a powerful piece of writing. Your boys may ...What a powerful piece of writing. Your boys may not have a dad, and you may not have the support a dad could give both them and you, but your boys do have a mom who stands by them and is there for them. I admire your courage in taking them in when they needed it. My husband and I are in the middle of completing the training to be foster parents and I've almost talked myself out of it. Maybe I'll rethink again.Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08210045352610490115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-12273838034071322642013-03-09T17:11:12.659-07:002013-03-09T17:11:12.659-07:00You are one of the strongest women I have ever enc...You are one of the strongest women I have ever encountered. Your heart is in your writing. I wish I could wrap my arms around you. One day these boys will see how blessed they've been by your love. elsiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01348895330633879894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-8075891698020259402013-03-09T16:55:49.816-07:002013-03-09T16:55:49.816-07:00Carol, I wish your wish could be granted. What a ...Carol, I wish your wish could be granted. What a powerful and personal piece you've shared with us. Your boys are blessed to have a mother who loves them as you do. My prayers for you and yours.Ramonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929914252480696798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-32758030751681344292013-03-09T16:33:00.186-07:002013-03-09T16:33:00.186-07:00Oh Carol, I understand your wish. Hopefully there ...Oh Carol, I understand your wish. Hopefully there will be males in their life to mentor them. You are courageous in stepping up for these boys and being a parent. The prayers, listening, and love will come through for them.iJonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04299647754479967070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-58006155246701912312013-03-09T16:32:50.968-07:002013-03-09T16:32:50.968-07:00Awed, teary-eyed, admiring - none of which help yo...Awed, teary-eyed, admiring - none of which help you in your struggle. But I so appreciate your sharing your life's work with us. How wonderful that you all came together to form a family! You do the best you can, every day. All the best. Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05648692207452837262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7724394291330902141.post-55501949856542939112013-03-09T16:15:39.374-07:002013-03-09T16:15:39.374-07:00That is a reasonable wish and I can understand it....That is a reasonable wish and I can understand it.<br />There are things you don't know and can't understand. Transitions to adulthood are tough in all circumstances though.<br />This is what I know- you stood up and took these boys in. You did and continue to show up. You do pray, listen, give advice, solve problems and love your sons with your whole heart.<br />This comes through when you write. It the hard, messy work of life. It matters, you matter and you have taught your sons that they matter! Continuing to pray.writekimwritehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02910094603036735657noreply@blogger.com